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August 27, 2015



Remember that wonderful quilter we met the first year we went to the Buggy Barn quilt show, the one who drove herself from Portland and was there by herself? She made friends with everybody and seemed to have the best time. Whenever we asked her to join us she already had plans! My secret fantasy is to spend a month in Paris, by myself, 6 months would be even better!!

Barbara Anne

Sweet AMIL was that sort of person and wherever we lived, she'd come visit by herself because FIL was a difficult hermit.

Both AMIL and my mother went on overseas tours with another single friend to room with.

An elderly friend of mine often went on bus tours to historic areas with quilt shops and she made good friends with others on the bus since they traveled together for two weeks.

I agree that it would be far more fun to travel with someone else so there would be someone to share the experiences, the laughs, and the time.



Hi! Thank you for this post. My husband passed away in March and I find myself in this same situation if I want to travel, even to a neighbouring city! I have resigned myself if this is what I want to do, I will have to do it in my own. I have a few single friends, but they are not feeling like they want to group travel at this time. But I have a long life to live and want to do many things! I really like Thelma's idea of France! They have a moderate winter I understand! Take care all! Leslie

Mary Kastner

The older I get, the more I appreciate people keeping their energy and good health as best they can. it is not easy to keep motivated but some people seem to have the secret to do just that. This lady sounds like a wonderful person making the best of her circumstances. Good for her!



What a thought-provoking post! I applaud this lady who makes her own happiness & enjoyment a priority! The 92-year-old mom of our friends is very similar as far as keeping on keeping on despite having been a widow for almost 15 years! She plays Bridge twice a week (sometimes three days!), belongs to a couple of charitable groups & still bakes for various church activities! She & her friends go out to restaurants & concerts many times each month! We all say we hope we can be like her when we get to that age…truly an inspiration! Oh! And she still makes quilts & goes to Quilt Guild meetings where another lady is 102!!

Laura Valdez

My Mom was 90 when she died. She cooked meals for our employees 5 days a week for 10 years after we opened our business. She fixed family meals at least every two weeks. She sewed crafts for my niece's craft shows, crocheted afghans for everyone, baked and made candies for the holidays. Her theory was if you just sit and do nothing you won't live to be 90...She cooked for our crew on Feb 4th of that year and she passed away the 23rd. She was alert and left this earth the way she wanted, quickly. She always said age is just a number. Keep going!


Many married people are bystanders in the road of life, not just single older people. I was single for many years and went to movies, shopping, concerts, traveled and LIVED. I didn't think I needed a man to do these things. Yes, company is great, and I have a great guy now, but I have single friends who are smart, financially secure and BORING. They do nothing, have all the time off from work, but are afraid to live. How sad and hats off to this woman.


You just assumed that because she's alone that she's lonely and I didn't think that you are right there. Perhaps she is a widow but also I could be that she has a husbandd who gave her this trip as a gift. How about next time you meet her you invited her for a cup of coffee and a nice little chat and find out (and please share with us then;-) That's said I know a nice old 92yo who has a active social life and you're lucky to catch her at the phone because she's away most of the time:-)


I'm single and have dealt with this dilemma often. I've come to the conclusion, if I want to do something or travel, I can't wait around for others to join me. I'll invite, but I don't put my plans on hold for long. I eat alone all the time, so why not at a restaurant, too? Being alone is not the same as being lonely.

Too many of my friends think they simply cannot do things alone; my answer is, "yes you can!"


Being single and active at any age can have difficulties, but the solution is always the same: just do it. At 57 and widowed I do find it hard to find similar travel buddies, but manage one way or another. The biggest obstacle I find is my grown children worrying about me, but they're learning to let go a bit just like I had to with them some years ago. I try not to make the pay-backs too hard on them.


Yes, me and I love it. Doing what I want to, meeting new people and answering to no one. Liberating.


I'm glad others mentioned that being alone doesn't mean you're lonely. It, of course, depends on the personality of the individual, but for those of us who are adventurers, life is never boring!

Liz S.

Yes this is a thought provoking post! My Mom has been a widow 9 years now, and she is scared about too many things and in a fear based holding pattern.
Good for this lady to go and grab life by the horns! Inspiring!

Wendy T.

What an inspiring story Nicole. I love hearing about women like the one you described. A great example of how to live in our "golden" years.


My mother is 81, she vacations in Spain twice a year. This year she added a week's trip on the Rhine in during the early summer. A travel company in her local town (she lives in England) does coach trips. She took one to Winchester Cathedral when there was a flower show. It was to see if she liked the company because they have a multi day trip to Liverpool that she wants to take. My father died 8 years ago and she said she wasn't going to sit around doing nothing for the rest of her life.

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